Comments on: You Deserve It

By: Saturday Weigh In and LinkStuff | Quest For Four Pillars

Saturday Weigh In and LinkStuff | Quest For Four Pillars — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 14:01:51 +0000

[...] On Financial Success hosted the Festival of Frugality and included Mr. Cheap’s post You Deserve It. [...]

By: Festival of Frugality 109 | On Financial Success

Festival of Frugality 109 | On Financial Success — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 10:17:49 +0000

[...] Cheap @ Quest For Four Pillars analyzes you deserve it thinking which is the enemy of frugal [...]

By: Four Pillars

Four Pillars — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 04:40:06 +0000

Deepali – I think you have the perfect answer – even if you can’t say it out loud.

Mike

By: Mr. Cheap

Mr. Cheap — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 04:22:02 +0000

deepali: That’s the problem, what *can* you say?

By: deepali

deepali — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 01:20:38 +0000

So what do you tell someone when they say they deserve it? I have a friend who says that. She’s in debt, and tells me that she grew up without a lot of money (6 kids, sahm, dad was blue collar), paid her way through college, etc, and now she deserves the indulgence, or whatever. I want to respond by pointing out that perhaps with her bad decision-making (she picked up an absurd monthly payment when she got her mortgage), the only thing she deserves is her debt.
Of course, that’s mean.

By: Gates VP

Gates VP — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 02:23:54 +0000

Hey Nancy, any credit would be much appreciated, it’ll be going into the book

By: The Friday Gathering but on Saturday | Gather Little by Little

The Friday Gathering but on Saturday | Gather Little by Little — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 18:30:35 +0000

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By: The Financial Blogger

The Financial Blogger — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 13:23:31 +0000

Mr. Cheap,

My lawyers are on their way You “deserved” it

I really like the “earn” vs “deserve” perception mentioned by Gates

By: Weekend Roundup: Long Weekend Edition | beingfrugal.net

Weekend Roundup: Long Weekend Edition | beingfrugal.net — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 12:14:45 +0000

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By: nancy (aka money coach)

nancy (aka money coach) — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 06:21:03 +0000

will you people all stop telling the Deservers the errors of their ways? Then I’ll run out of clients!
on the serious side – I think we all grew up with a set of expectations of what life would look like for us financially, and haven’t yet come to terms with the fact that it isn’t. (much as I love my funky condo in Vancouver, I sure never dreamed a condo would be all I could afford!). In addition – hello – a kabillion marketing messages come at us every day, from every direction, telling us we deserve it. Eventually, we succumb and tell ourselves we do indeed, price-tag be damned, as commentors above wrote. @GatesVP – mind if I use your empowering/disempowering concept with my clients? I’ll try to credit you!